So, there are these boxes. Our homes are filled with them, our workplaces, our churches, our Facebook pages, our hashtags, and most deeply, our relationships. The boxes are what we build around the people in our lives. We want them to stay inside; we need them to stay within the box's limits. Letting people out of the confines we put them in is risky, dangerous, and mostly outright terrifying. Because more than anything, we are all looking for some control and to know what the heck is going on in this world and where there is safety and where it makes sense. And eliminate the mess. So, the boxes. They let us stack people neatly, cleanly, efficiently...and it allows us to keep people exactly where we want them. It helps us feel that we are, after all, exactly who we want to be. In a room of boxed up people, the risks involved in relationships shrink dramatically because the unknown can't be explored within a box. We won't be wrong about them if they are crammed ins